Starting To Feel Married...

When we first got married our friend told us it may be a while before you actually start to FEEL married. I wasn't really sure what he meant by this. Beau and I have been together a LONG time and we had lived together for a little over a year before we were married so in my mind and in my heart we had always been married. And then I had to sign the receipt at the hotel. I am clearly not used to the new last name yet as I signed it with my maiden name. Its one of those things that you do for so long that it becomes a very hard habit to break. But when do you actually start to FEEL married?

Since we got back into NY on Monday we have done some overhauling of the apartment. This is what it looked like when we first moved in back in January:
Since we moved out on the train, and were only allowed a set amount of 50 lb boxes, we needed to fill our apartment once we were here. It was the first time I had ever been in an IKEA and praise the Lord that our sister and brother had rented a full size SUV to help us get moved in. We loaded UP and slowly started opening boxes, assembling our furniture, and starting this new phase of life so far from home. We were determined to make it home to make the move as easy as possible for our hearts.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am the type of person who loves to have people over. I love to feed you all kinds of good food and make you feel so at home that you never want to leave (or if you do, you come back again soon). We went for MONTHS without pictures on the walls or a rug on the floor. I would sit in the apartment while Beau was at work surrounded by everything new. Nothing we had in the apartment was anything that we brought from home so when we came back after the wedding I had this unbelievable NEED to make this place feel like HOME. We brought back pictures, our rug, goodies that we got as wedding gifts, blankets, pillows, candles, books, baskets...you name it and if we could jam it into our car we did it! Here is what our place looks like now:
*Note: this is just a teaser because we are wanting to surprise our family when they come to visit ;)

We also stocked up on groceries. Our fridge has never been this full since we moved here. Now that we have Ruby here, I think grocery shopping will be much easier and more enjoyable. And HOPEFULLY more cost effective!

So as I sit here on this cold and rainy day I think to myself that I now feel 32% married. Life hasn't changed that much at all and I like it that way. I look around the apartment and I think to myself how good it feels to be settled into our first home as husband and wife. I am so anxious to really delve deep into our new adventure. I want to be the best wife I can be. I want to cook. I want to do dishes (or at least load them into the dish washer). I want to do laundry. I want to be so domestic and I want to welcome our loved ones into our home with open arms and stuff them with all kinds of good stuff!

AND...as I was writing this my HUBBY went down to get the mail and look what I got...
My NEW IOWA driver's license!!!! A new name, a new chapter...

In Gods Love,

Beau and Kenz

Sadie, Sadie Married Lady (Thats Me!)--and other amusing happenings

October 14th was a beautiful day. The weather was PERFECT and I was not in the least bit nervous about what was to come. Although I wanted to spend every second with my fiance and missed him every second that I wasn't with him.

I spent the day with my sister and it was perfect. We just hung out and did fun little things. I was spent from decorating the church and reception hall the night before but I had so much energy. Partly because I knew there were most likely some things I was forgetting, and partly because Sarah was there and partly because...well... I was MARRYING MY BEST FRIEND.

So anyway...we had rehearsal and all our loved ones were there. I couldn't ask for a more beautiful memory then the one where I walked down the aisle and we were practicing for the big day and all our loved ones were there with us. That is, until the actual day came. But I won't elaborate on that too much. Anyone who reads this was most likely there and if you weren't there, you know me well enough (and Beau and I's relationship) that you already know how emotion filled the sanctuary was. So to sum up October 15th...it was perfect, it was beautiful, it was emotional, it was blissful, it was amazing, it was MORE than I could have ever hoped for.

And then the honeymoon. We had planned on driving down south the following Monday after we had gotten all the paper work done. However, we had a couple hick ups along the way. Our officiant and dear friend of ours signed the marriage license in blue ink. Before I could even get it out of my mouth that it needed to be signed in black it was already done. It was then that I started PRAYING that the courthouse would take it and all would be well. Well, Monday came around and guess what...they didn't take it. At first I was peeved at the county because it seemed like no big deal to me, but then it dawned on me that it was the Lord's way of giving us more time with our family before taking off again. So we had lunch with my grandpa then headed up to Sioux City to have the marriage license resigned by the officiant and one of our witnesses. Then we had dinner with Beau's parents and then checked into a hotel. Oh boy...

As we were driving along the gravel roads (at night in the middle of no where) we were trying to freak each other out with spooky stories. While *trying* to freak me out Beau pulls over the the side of the road and tells me that he sees (imaginary headless ghost) standing in the field and that she was coming towards the car. "Beau!" (as I lock the car door and tell him its really not funny). So he pulls back onto the road and as we are pulling into city limits we see cop cars, EVERYWHERE. As we pass by the park we see cops and rescue vehicles parked. Then we look up and see a helicopter flying over with a spot light. We pull into the parking lot of the hotel and as we are unloading the car Beau says to expedite the process because he didn't want to be standing out in the parking lot in case there was a mass murderer on the loose. And I think to myself: "maybe now you won't pull over to the side of the road in the hopes of making me pee my pants."

The next morning we woke up and made our way down to Kansas City. The five hour drive was a boring one. Nothing pretty to look at and NO radio stations to jam out to. Still I was anxious because I knew we'd be getting to see Annie and Sarah again before we headed down South. The next morning we stopped over to see my sisters before starting out on our honeymoon. It was so wonderful to sit in the kitchen and drink coffee and just talk. Then we headed out. For our honeymoon we planned on stopping at roadside places that were "off the beaten trail." We stopped at a couple of places in Missouri but both left us disappointed. Apparently historic places in Missouri are only open at random times. We got about as far St Louis when we got a phone call that changed our plans yet again.

Beau's school...lets just say their incompetence never surprises me but this was TOO MUCH. Basically we had to put our honeymoon on hold yet again as we had to turn around and drive BACK to Toledo and schedule a doctors appointment per the schools request. At this point we were more upset with the school than the fact that we had to drive back home. It meant we got to spend more time at home. We ended up staying in town for a couple a days. It was wonderful to spend the time with my parents but because of the detour, we decided to take a different route back to NY. This too was a blessing though because we ended up honeymooning in Vermont. Neither one of us had ever been there and it was the PERFECT time of year to go. The views were beautiful and we got to just relax and enjoy our time together.

Getting into NY I think we were both thinking the same thing "only a few more months" Then we will be back in the Midwest for good and can really settle in and start our life together.

We've made the apartment much more homier which helps. Pictures to come when we're all done.

Love,

Beau and Kenz WADDELL

Hello Old Friend, I've missed you...

Yesterday was September 23rd. Check your calendars. What does it say? "First day of Autumn." Hello my dear old friend, I've missed you.

It is my most favorite time of year. Everything is beautiful, everything is bright and brilliant. I love everything about the season: the colors, the smells, the CLOTHES, the days that make you want to stay inside and look out the window, and even the days that make you want to run outside and soak up the last bit of sun that the year will offer. I love the excitement of football, the sweaters, hats, and gloves that people bundle up in while they cradle hot chocolate or coffee in their hands. I love the promise of the oncoming Thanksgiving holiday. Its a time where loved ones come together and eat, eat, EAT and just enjoy each other's company. I love the Macy's Thanksgiving day parade, I love harvest, I love the pumpkins popping up every where in the garden, and I love...well, everything about it.

I can't believe how fast the year has gone. About this time last year Beau and I were snuggling into our apartment in Toledo and I was (as always) decorating for my most favorite time of year. Here is a snippet of what I did last year:


One of my favorite family fall traditions is picking apples. Last year Beau and I went picking apples for the first time:

We even bought some pumpkins and carved them for Halloween:

This is always a happy time of year for me. This fall is going to be one of the best ever. 2 more weeks and Beau will be home, 20 more days and I will be walking down the aisle to start the rest of my life with the most amazing man the Lord has ever created, and this Thanksgiving my HUSBAND and I have plans to go to the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade with our beautiful sister and brother in law followed by a Thanksgiving feast at our apartment. Yes I am planning a big ole Thanksgiving feast complete with beautiful festive decorations! What better way to spend the holiday than with our amazing family.

I am so glad you are back Autumn. I've missed you.

Back from a brief respite

Hello everyone!

As Jenna kindly reminds me, I have not written in quite some time. Boy have I been busy I have been home a full month now and it doesn't even seem possible. I don't know where the time went.

I will start off at the beginning of the adventure between leaving New York for a kick ass road trip with my sisters and our wedding...

Princeton, NJ to Toledo, IA. Departure Time: 4:00pm Eastern Time- Arrival Time: 2:00pm Central Time. Trip Duration: 27 hours STRAIGHT. A few things:
1) the Catskills are BEAUTIFUL and I highly recommend that EVERYONE sees Pennsylvania at least once in their lifetime
2) South Tama done me wrong when it came to Geography. And here is why I say that... Me: (to Beau and Sarah) "Its a 12-15 hour drive from here (meaning New York) to Toledo I looked it up on google maps" Beau and Sarah just look at each other and then look at me. Sarah: "um..." (with a 'you're such a dumb ass' look on her face) Beau: "oh yea? How did you come up with that? (being as sweet as he can) Me: "well it said on google maps that would only take about 15 hours and I was guessing that Chicago is only a 6 hour drive from here because it takes roughly 6 hours to get to Chicago from Toledo." Somewhere in my head that made sense. This is what I learned from THIS: It takes 7-8 hours ALONE to get through PA non-stop. You do the math. AND, Beau and Sarah I think just go along with a lot of what I say sometimes.
3) The train station is indeed a very dramatic place. Leaving Beau there reminded me of the old black and white movies. I thought about running after the train. But the lack of steam made it less dramatic and there was no theme music playing in the back ground so what's the point?
4) Sarah and Jaqui are two of the BEST people to go on a long road trip with. I love those ladies even more because when you have 27 hours to kill, you really get to know someone.
5) The Bermuda Triangle is NOT located over the ocean somewhere, it is right there in Illinois. (We got lost and added 4 hours to the trip)

Once we were home wedding planning got into full swing. It has been a little more stressful trying to get everything done while in New York, but now that I am home and close to everyone and every thing the process has been much smoother and I am ready to marry the man of my dreams. Time consuming? Yes, but its going to be everything I could have ever hoped for and I am just anxious to see all our loved ones and share this day with them.

And since wedding planning has been so time consuming, I have not spent a MOMENT on grad school. Not a single moment. However, I was inspired today to actually get that stinking resume done. The one that rears it ugly head and reminds you that you are indeed a college graduate and that (like it or not) the government is going to want you to start paying back your dues in 6 short months. Why can't I just click my heels together and automatically be placed in my dream job telling them just what my terms are? Soon enough...

Thats pretty much the skinny for right now. How are all of you?!

Proverbs 16:9

..."the mind of man plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps."

Not too long ago I subscribed to this online devotional for couples. I though it was the best way for Beau and I to have our own church services since we have yet to find a church that fits us here. And I think its a remarkable way to get to know each others hearts even more and really grow as a couple. When I subscribed, I also subscribed for this devotional for "20 something women." There have been more than a few times where reading this devotional (directed at women in this age group) has really opened my eyes to a lot of things we face as women at this age and there have been many times where the writer has felt much like I have at times. Its so refreshing. I highly recommend it. If you would like to check it out sometime let me know and I will facebook you the link!

Today the writer (named Shannon) was talking about how she had just turned 29 and how she felt like putting a "9" at the end of her age felt so final, like she was closing that whole stage of life. She talked about how she made a list when she was 19 of how she wanted her life to turn out and how there were times where she felt she had failed because so many things were left un-done. However, she also mentioned how she felt she was growing lately because she was able to look past her list that she made so many years ago and realize that, at this point in her life, her past had taken her in a different direction and now those dreams she had set out for herself weren't so important anymore.

Wow...it makes me think of where I have been in my life for the past three years. I knew I wanted to marry Beau pretty much from the moment I met him. I knew I wanted to be an architect since I was in grade school, and I knew I wanted to live in Iowa. There is never a day that goes by that Beau and I didn't wish we were back home but look at where we are now.

Him leaving the country for school was possibly the hardest thing I have ever gone through in my life. But even in such a hard and difficult time, there was a silver lining to it all. Beau is almost graduated, we are getting married in October, and our relationship is so strong...stronger than anything I know and I know with all my heart that if the Lord wouldn't have lead him there, we probably wouldn't have the incredible relationship we have now. Thank you Lord.

I am not an architect. In fact, I will be getting my undergrad just shy of age 26. Why did I screw around for so many years? Why did I not just get my act together in my "early" 20's, buckle down, and stick it out? If I would have I possibly would be an architect by now or I would maybe have my master's in architectural history. Instead I am 25 and ready to tear my hair out because I don't have my dream job. I don't have a job period. Yet, there are many things I need to be thankful for. When I made the decision to leave school for awhile to pursue a different field of study I felt like I was backed into a corner and fighting my way out. ISU was getting to be too much, and I just needed to re-group. Looking back I am glad I did it. Once again it made Beau and I really appreciate each other and fight for what we had. It gave me a chance to learn new things about myself and really discover my independence. I met so many new people and made some great friends in nursing school and the fact that I was home made me reconnect with those I had been friends with in high school and grew those relationships as well. Thank you Lord for the amazing people in my life and thank you for where I am now and all the amazing things I have done and seen. It was not my plan, but it was yours and I couldn't be happier.

Recently Beau and I were trying very hard to get home as soon as possible. We even considered transferring schools so we could get back to Iowa. We thought long and hard about it and prayed so diligently that the Lord would send us back. But I feel, so strongly, that we need to be here. We need to make New York work, and we need to rely on each other and Him to make this a great experience for us. I feel as though here is where we are preparing for the rest of our life together and even though we would MUCH rather be home and closer to friends and family who have been our constant support system, we have a peace now that the Lord is going to do amazing things in us while we are here, maybe even use us in ways that we couldn't really be used at home. And for that we are thankful.

So I guess what it comes down to is this: even if we feel like we have the ideal life planned out for ourselves we have to not fight what God wants for us. It may seem safe and more certain to do things our own way, but it never is, and its never half as rewarding as when we just let Him be our GPS. There are so many roads we want to go down in life that seem sunny and straight, and a lot easier on our cars but its not near as fun and exciting when we take the "road less traveled" no matter how bumpy and scary it may SEEM at first. This is something I have to remind myself everyday. I need to remember that life really never turns out how you planned but better.

2:43 am, Ranting to my Adoring Fans...

Well, its EARLY (or late) and instead of drifting off to dream land along side my slumbering fiance (who has been out to the world for 5 and a 1/2 hours now) I am up.

Tonight was going to be different. I was going to try and break this habit I have gotten into. This insomniac lifestyle I have adopted since we moved here. It was pushing 11 here and instead of reading the 2 billion pages I have to have read by friday to take my exam, AND instead of completing a writing assignment due on the same day, I decided to procrastinate. Its what I do. I have become the QUEEN of procrastination. I have realized that now that the blinding light at the end of the tunnel inevitably means that repayment of student loans will commence in a short 6 months, I am dragging my feet. Why? Who knows why. Why would one possibly burn out when the end was so near. New mantra? "You are done in a month" Sometimes I wonder to myself if I really want to further pursue my endeavors in higher education and then I remember that now is when I actually begin to APPLY all that I have wasted countless hours and money on for the past 6 YEARS! I stand corrected. There is no applying what I have learned to the outside world, instead it is merely a VERY costly piece of paper. Oh well, on to bigger and better things and 10 years from now when I have the career that I have wanted since I was 10 will be well worth it right?

Part of my procrastination tonight was this little thing we call youtube. I love youtube. I hate youtube. I am STEWING over youtube tonight. It has let me down. I am not one for remembering passwords and sign on names. I have too damn many of them and they are all different and it is impossible to remember them all. It is because of this that I have never, EVER signed out of my youtube account for fear of not being able to remember the shit needed to sign back in. It happened tonight. I went to listen to Bee Gee's (yes Bee Gee's) and I look up into the corner. The right hand corner that tells you you are indeed signed in and all your "favorites" are right there at your finger tips. To my HORROR I went to my favorites list and NOTHING. OVER 100 FAVORITES GONE! After a great deal of cussing like a sailor in my head I decided to just start the whole process over again. This occurred at 1 am. At 2 am I had managed to remember most of what was on my favorites and began to fall asleep at the wheel. So I decided to go lay down and deal with it in the morning. But as I snuck into a very cold bedroom and slid under the covers into a very warm bed and curled up alongside Beau I thought how I hadn't blogged in forever and how my faithful readers are probably wondering why I hadn't been faithful. I know that my readers LOVE to read my blog and that if I had the proper knowledge on how to really do a blog the right way, complete with slide shows and a spot for emails from my fans begging for more reading material, I would undoubtedly be sorting through thousands of requests for a new posting. How could I let you down?

So despite it now being 3:02 in the morning I wanted to write. Here it is:

Usually when I see the Ice Cream Lady heading down the street in Toledo I think "how quaint." I think Leave It To Beaver and how absolutely PERFECT it is that a small farm town in Iowa has an Ice Cream Truck. When I hear the music I get all giddy, dig for spare change, and stand out on the corner waiting for her to pull up. New York is different. The fact that the ice cream man plays his music until after dark freaks me out. I also think its insane that he charges $2 for a baby cone. I also think its creepy that he parks down at the park. Funny anecdote for you though, the other day while I was walking back from the grocery store the Ice Cream truck was indeed parked in its same predatorial spot playing its music to the kiddies like the Pied Piper and I look up and barreling down the road is ANOTHER Ice Cream truck. I began to play out the scenario in my head: Ice Cream Truck #1 found out that Ice Cream Truck #2 makes a KILLING of this prime location and so he gets up before dawn and stakes his claim on the corner. Ice Cream Truck #2 catches wind that someone has encroached on his turf. Ice Cream Truck #2 races to location. There is a standoff in the street. Ice Cream Man vs. Ice Cream Man. Its an all out turf war. (end scene) Ok so it was hilarious to me. I guess you had to have been there.

So there you have it. I am tapped out for the night but I promise that I will be more on top of this whole blog thing, that is AFTER I re-add all my favorites to youtube :D

A friend

"Even though we've changed, and we are all finding our place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we are not all still friends." -anonymous

"The friend who can be silent with us in the moment of confusion or despair, who can stay with us in an hour of grief or bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing...not healing, not curing, that is a friend who cares." - Henri Nouwen

"Are you upset little friend? Have you been lying awake worrying? Well, don't worry...I'm here. The flood waters will recede, the famine will end, the sun will shine tomorrow, and I will always be here to take care of you." -Charlie Brown to Snoopy

I don't know how many of my friends actually read this, but I wanted to write this anyway.

I have a friend, a dear sweet friend who had to move very far away and (as what happens when you grow up and start lives of your own) we began to loose touch. There was never a time where I wanted or intended to loose touch but it just happened. And today I got the most beautiful email from that friend reminding me that no matter how far apart we are we are always apart of eachother's lives and that nothing will ever change that.

I have been blessed. Moving so far from home has not been easy for me. But even as I write this I realize how far home actually is. Home is where the heart is to be sure. But my home is scattered all over the country, and even all over the world. My dearest, most beloved friends have scattered to the four winds. I have friends in Austin, TX Omaha, NE Kansas City, MO Tama, IA Chariton, IA Ames, IA Pierre, SD and even Busan, North Korea. Its crazy to me how when you are little you have your best friend and you swear that you'll never move away and that you'll always live right down the street and that you can always have slumber parties whenever you want. Even when you reach college you feel the same way. And even, EVEN, when you live thousands of miles away from those friends, you still feel like you want to live right down the street from them, and that you can have slumber parties whenever you want. At 25 I feel the same way I did when I was 5 and 15, you have your friends and they are ALWAYS with you.

We are grown ups now. And our lives have taken us to various places and we've had different experiences but once upon a time we were 5, 10, 15, 20... and we promised each other we'd always be there for each other.

I've laughed and cried with each and every one of you and there is no one who could be more dear to me as you.

And no matter how far apart we are I promise I am always here for you. Don't worry, don't be upset. I'll be the Charlie Brown to your Snoopy.

So here is to all my beautiful friends, ones I have known for 20 years and ones I have known for 2. I love you and I am always here for you. Near or far.

Karen, Shannon, Jenna, Helen, Erin, Sarah, Courtney, Kim, Amy...I miss you guys.